When embarking on a profound and life-changing process, it’s always good to pause and consider how you’re starting. How do you feel? How are you doing? Many people who embark on a journey like The Freedom To Fly have dealt – or at least have had to deal – with fatigue and exhaustion, stress and overwhelm. More often than not, this is because in your life, you’ve been busy – or have been busy in the past – cleaning up or dealing with someone else’s shit.
Your own patterns
For instance, many people discover along the way that within their work or within a social circle, they take on and process the sorrows, disappointments, or other emotions of others. I know people, for example, who always act as the spokesperson for a group – a class, a team, or a club – addressing any unfairness or injustice with the higher-ups, while the rest remain silent, expecting these individuals to naturally speak up for the entire group. Consequently, they have to deal with everything that comes with speaking up, including the emotions, the passion, the consequences in relationships, functioning, and potential practical measures.
It could also involve taking on responsibilities almost automatically, perhaps those of your children. After all, you feel responsible for them, and therefore responsible for the things they should be responsible for themselves. Ensuring they wake up on time for school or work, providing them with healthy and varied meals, making sure they wear clean clothes – as children grow older, they should be making more choices themselves and bearing the consequences of those choices, but for many parents – especially mothers – it’s not easy to let go. Emotional responsibility is also easily taken on by parents – especially sensitive, involved parents. The sadness, helplessness, or anger of a child can easily evoke the same emotions in a parent, and parents may unknowingly process these emotions on behalf of their child.
It can also be more practical: always being the one who takes care of everything, always being the one who comes up with solutions, always being the one who takes the initiative. For example, you may suggest organizing a fun weekend together in a cottage with your group of friends, and everyone responds enthusiastically. But the actual planning becomes slow and challenging because there’s always someone who can’t go, or won’t go, or drops out due to other commitments. You become deeply involved, and everyone looks to you because, well, you’re always the one who takes care of everything. And you may feel the disappointment or frustration of others and genuinely want to solve everything for everyone.
These are examples that originate from within you. Your own patterns, your own choices, and everything that comes with them.
Additionally, there may be situational stress in your life. There could be a crisis at work, and suddenly it’s all hands on deck. There’s no room for you amidst whatever is happening; all the focus is on resolving the issue. There may be sudden changes in your financial situation that need to be dealt with, or there may be a steady and creeping shortage that increasingly weighs you down with pressure and despair. Within your relationships with others, there may be tension and unrest, such as arguments with a sibling about taking care of an elderly parent. Or someone you deeply love may pass away.
The Great Dilemma
Precisely when you’ve had enough of feeling constantly tired and exhausted, stressed and overwhelmed, you desire change. Yet, change is difficult when you don’t have the bandwidth, when you’re in survival mode, when you’re no longer capable of reflecting. After all, you will also need energy for the process; otherwise, you won’t get around to it. At the same time, taking focused steps is necessary to make progress.
This dilemma is very real and is the most common reason why people give up on an inner transformation process they’ve initiated. They become demotivated after a fresh and determined start driven by both necessity and desire because they can’t find the time for their process or feel rebellious, thinking that ‘working on oneself’ sometimes feels like having to do even more, or they feel incapable of handling change on top of everything else that’s happening to them. They don’t want to ‘just keep pushing’ out of compulsion and at the same time, they don’t want to choose ‘forget it’ out of lack of interest and space. But… what then?
This time will be different…
The Freedom To Fly addresses all these factors. For example, we delve deeper into your relationship with Time and this Great Dilemma. In this process of The Freedom To Fly, you will confront your own patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting, and if they no longer serve you, you’ll be equipped with all the necessary tools to resolve, dismantle, let go, and replace them with something new that aligns with who you are now. You’ll receive guidance on how to remain centered in situations of stress and continue walking your own path, maintaining your own course, and making choices that are good and fulfilling for you with peace, love, and clarity. You’ll also gain the tools to truly find the time and space within yourself to bring about sustainable change, free from compulsion and indifference. You’ll transition from survival mode into your beautiful, unique process.
It’s a big promise. And one that I can confidently make. However, it doesn’t guarantee the extent to which you can make The Freedom To Fly work for you. In 2022, a survey was conducted among participants, and it revealed that for those who didn’t actively engage with The Freedom To Fly, ‘life’ got in the way. They had indeed noticed a difference, experienced its added value, but simply couldn’t find the time. After a while, it faded into the background. And ironically, ‘life’ is precisely what it’s all about: situational stress, your own patterns, and the bandwidth you have to truly embrace this process – and any process, really. None of this is new to you; you probably already know how it works, and I’m sure you’ve experienced it before. So, what can ensure that this time is different?
As I mentioned before, The Freedom To Fly can make it different because it addresses everything that prevents you from being your authentic self and following your heart out of self-love instead of obligation. But that’s quite a mind-fuck: to be able to do it, you have to do it. Quite a challenge. However, all participants who genuinely went through The Freedom To Fly experienced it exactly like this. According to the survey, those who internalized and continued applying the insights and experiences gained became increasingly capable of fearlessly and effortlessly engaging in all the processes life asks of you. It was a significant shift, a breakthrough that dissolved all previous barriers, leading to a different life. These are frequently heard expressions. People make different choices. Choices that fully align, choices that make life better, happier, more radiant, filled with tranquility, love, and light. Choices that energize rather than drain.
…and this helps!
So, how can I help you to actually work through The Freedom To Fly and make The Freedom To Fly work for you? That was the question I posed to participants and clients. One response was that it would be helpful to – before you start – address everything mentioned here. Take a moment to reflect on your own patterns, your specific environmental factors, and how the Great Dilemma stirs within you. Many people mentioned that they could have persisted better if they had gained more insight into these aspects. They could have chosen to persevere despite resistance instead of being distracted. They could have followed their true desires instead of giving up due to external circumstances.
Another helpful aspect is the knowledge that the first module already extensively focuses on detaching yourself from others, enabling you to more easily hear your own thoughts, feel your own emotions, and become aware of your own body. I sometimes receive touching messages where people indicate that the first module already makes a tremendous difference in their stress levels and released tensions. In fact, I consider this module as a kind of Energy Recovery Plan. If you’re feeling low on energy to start, I recommend beginning with this module and sticking with it for a while. I know people who did the exercises every day for a few weeks and tell me that it completely transformed their lives. After years of being overwhelmed, they found the energy to continue with The Freedom To Fly and extract everything they had dreamed of.
Guidance is also helpful, as many people mentioned. That’s why there are now more support options available, and I continue to find ways to provide solid support to everyone, if desired. You can find all the current forms of support on The Fountain Total Training (www.tfto22.com) website.
Finally, taking stock of how you’re starting is also beneficial. Because when you assess where you’re starting from, you can compare after some time. You can see how you’ve shifted. Perhaps you notice that you can stay more connected to yourself, or maybe you feel less overwhelmed. Perhaps you have answers to questions you had. You become more excited. You feel the ‘yes!’ growing stronger. From there, you can draw motivation, helping you choose more and more for yourself. And that brings me back to the beginning of this piece: How do you feel? How are you doing?
After all, all of this is solely and exclusively for you.
So, after all of this, take a moment to pause and reflect on yourself.
Pausing before you begin
Before you start The Freedom To Fly, take some time to assess how you’re doing, in your own way. Below are questions you can answer to assist you with that. You can do this mentally, but it’s more convenient to do it physically so that you have something tangible to refer back to. For example, draw a line from left to right and place a dot somewhere on that line based on your gut feeling. This represents where you currently stand. You can also briefly or extensively write down – or type – your responses to each question as they come to you. Or you can assign a number to each question, create a collage, or use any method you prefer.
Answer the following questions while considering all three of your bodies: physical, emotional, and mental. Answer them purely and honestly, as they truly are, rather than how you wish they were. The more honest you are with yourself, the more effective this whole process will be for you. Answer as if no one, ever, will find out what you say here (and that’s true!). Alternatively, imagine that God, the Universe, your guardian angel, or whatever entity you have complete trust in gives you full permission to say everything that truly weighs on your heart – knowing that there’s no point in holding anything back because they already know everything. What would you say then?
The questions are related to the modules, allowing you to track your progress throughout your journey.
a. To what extent are you detached from others and truly feel free to make your own plans and put them into action? This can be something as simple as not wanting to attend a birthday party or watch a particular movie. It can also involve more significant things, such as embarking on a long journey you’ve always wanted to take or ending a relationship.
b. Do you feel grounded, firmly rooted within earth, and connected to your reality? Or do you feel more absent, as if you lack solid ground beneath your feet?
c. Are you easily influenced by what others think, feel, or say?
a. Do you frequently feel fear, insecurity, or overwhelm?
b. Do you feel more of a stronger or weaker sense of belonging on this earth and knowing that there’s a place for you?
c. Do you feel more joy and pride in what you do, such as your work or your family, or do you tend to shrug off your accomplishments?
a. How much time pressure do you experience throughout your day?
b. How do you speak to yourself internally when, for example, you’re running late or feeling overwhelmed?
a. Do you feel that many people don’t understand how things really are?
b. Do your relationships mostly energize you or drain you?
c. Do you often jump in to resolve things for others, easily taking on issues that don’t necessarily concern you?
a. How do you deal with feelings of guilt, shame, and judgment? To what extent do you experience them within yourself and towards others?
b. How much do you rely on (social) media, and how does it influence you?
a. When you think back to how someone has treated you with cruelty, hurtfulness, or unfairness, what happens inside of you?
b. Do you find that you sometimes berate yourself in your mind?
c. Do you experience moments of panic? If so, when?
d. And rage? When?
a. Do you find it easy to determine whether you should engage in something or let it go?
b. How easily can you let go?
c. To what extent do you experience magic in your life?
d. And happiness and joy?
e. How happy do you feel when you look at your daily life?
a. Reflect on yourself: What else is important before starting your process? What needs to be seen, heard, and perhaps written down?
b. Is there anything you want to acquire, such as a notebook or a new pen, A special tea for during your module sessions, maybe scented candles or something else?
You are now well-prepared and ready to begin! Everything you will learn in the coming time can be applied to your daily life. In fact, it is precisely in your encounters with reality – with the people, situations, and circumstances in it – that you can practice and apply, practice and apply. And that is the only way to truly master everything that The Freedom To Fly has to offer. It is through practice that we truly transform.